Author : Millie Padilla
Is your life a juggling act? Do you feel pulled in all directions, as if you have lost control of your life? What has happened to the successful life you dreamed of as you grew up?It seems that life has played a joke on many of us. The dream life we always wanted is still out there, unfulfilled. Without conscious thought, the focus of our activities turned to responding to responsibilities and interruptions of everyday living. Somewhere between starting a career, getting married and having a children, dreams were set aside to handle the changes in our daily life styles. Time for self-care was set aside in order to care for your spouse/partner, children and job.True success comes from having a balanced life; a love of life, joy in daily living and being your true self. I believe that you can begin today to create the life you really want.There are people and blessings in your life today that bring much joy and happiness. In order for you to notice your blessings, and appreciate these people, acknowledge them and treasure them. I want to remind you that you are a blessing unto yourself! You will want to acknowledge the various roles that comprise the whole you, honor and take care of each one.How do you begin to do this? First, do not rush the process. Give yourself the time to absorb what you learn. Second, grow. As you learn more about yourself, you will develop new insights and your connection to your family and the world at large. Third, have fun. Take each role seriously, but maintain a sense of humor.Strategies to unravel your roles1. The first step is to be aware of all the roles you play in the course of a day, week or month. You may be very surprised at how many roles you play. The role depends on whom you are interacting with at a given moment.Make a list of the various roles you play and them prioritize them. For example, your list may include (but not limited to):•A parent•A spouse/partner•An employee•A daughter•A friend•A Community memberDid you realize that you had so many roles? I imagine that you were so involved in responding to day-to-day activities, that the roles you played went unnoticed.There is more!2. Each role has responsibilities attached to them. These responsibilities you attended to, again, probably without being aware of it. I believe it is a good idea that you become aware of them.Make a list of the responsibilities that come with each role. For example, as a parent, some of your responsibilities include other roles, such as:•Provider of room, board and clothes•Housekeeper•Chef•Teacher•Counselor•Spiritual Advisor•Nurse•Play partnerAs a parent, you have been doing these unconsciously from the moment you gave birth. Many of responsibilities are called upon only when necessary (nurse, play partner, etc.)3. Review the list of roles you made. Take another close look at the list roles and responsibilities and try to guess how much time and energy you are expending for each role. The purpose of this exercise is to learn where your time and energy is spent.For two or three weeks, be aware of the roles you play and how much time you are spending in each role. On a sheet of paper write down how much time you spend in each role – be honest with yourself. You want to be able to make changes so that you can give the very best of yourself where it is most important to your. For example:-Role: Parent-Responsibility: Housekeeper/cook-Time Expended Weekly: 6 – 18 hours-Options: Delegate responsibilities to others-Role: Friend-Responsibility: Talk, advice, listen-Time Expended Weekly: 7+hours weekly-Options: If you have three close friends, have lunch once a week to catch up with news.4. Ask yourself some questions. Here are the questions to consider with each role:•How much time are you taking away from your family? Do you have to talk with your family/friend every evening?•How many weekends do you spent together as a family? Is your family spending too many weekends with other family or friends?•Are you teaching your children to be responsible for their environment? What responsibilities can you delegate to your children?•How will you inspire your children to create their dreams into reality? How many hours do you spend watching television, talking with friends, or surfing the net instead of working on creating your dream life?Letting other people, activities or situations interfere with your family will promote resentment and anger within the family unit.Creating balance means that you are spending the proper amount of time and energy to those roles that are important to you and contribute to your "whole" person and a harmonious life.Make the changes slowly and be patient with yourself. Changes do not occur overnight, not if they are going to be permanent.Now is the time for you to start creating your best life.Inspire the ChildrenChildren and teenagers also play roles in the course of a day, week or month. Do you recognize how many roles do your children play? They include, in addition to son/daughter, being a brother/sister, friend, student, caretaker (if they have pets), a babysitter, if they have younger siblings, community member, among others.As a parent, aunt or grandmother, you can inspire children to love and respect their life, a life that will carry them into adulthood with confidence and determination
Have the children go through the steps above. Create a family activity and have fun with it. This is a great opportunity to help them recognize the roles they play; learn the responsibilities associated with each role, and how to balance each role so that they can have a happy, balanced life.Now is the perfect time to help them begin to live their best life.Millie Padilla, Life Coach and Certified Master NLP Practitioner, is a graduate of CoachU. She specializes in helping women achieve a harmonious balance in life. Women learn to rediscover their dreams and create a life that brings joy to everyday living. Millie believes that learning is a life long process and contributes this philosophy as one of the reasons for her belief that we can all achieve success in life.Millie presents the Create Balance, Create Success program as a half-day workshop or six-week course.Find out more about Millie at http://www.coachmillie.com
Keyword : life coach, roles, balance, happy, time management,, success, family
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