Author : Liz Pabon
There are times when most of us have experienced that sense of despair that
comes from trying to reach our goals and seeing no light at the end of the
tunnel, we do the one thing that stops our progress cold…we sabotage
ourselves.During the dot.com bomb, there were thousands of highly qualified men and
women who could not get a job. No amount of networking, calling in of favors,
or bribing helped to get them a new job. The market was in a state of gloom.As a means to stay connected, myriad of out-of-work networking and other
groups were formed. And in these groups business professionals from various
walks of life all shared one common battle - the battle to stay positive while
under duress.The small business warrior is no stranger to this battle. Having invested all the
time, money and energy you can afford – and what you've borrowed – the
results you anticipated don't come soon enough.To continue fighting the good fight, and stay on course, avoid the following
most common self-sabotage mistakes:Limited Beliefs
Our thoughts and words are powerful. They are the number one support tool
we have to guide us towards our goals.When we don't believe we can, we won't.It's a universal law that those things we say to ourselves as well as what we
think about, manifests itself in our lives. Changing your belief system as it
relates to your success is the #1 first step towards achieving success. Believe
that you can, and you will!Lack of Vision
What is the vision you have for your life by the end of 2006? What about the
end of 2007? Do you see significant enrichment in your life? If not, is your
vision too small?Having worked with entrepreneurs for the past few years, one common
obstacle that repeatedly reveals itself is lack of vision (no vision at all or a very
small view of the future) or vision that is fuzzy, not clear.Your vision is much like the roadmap for your life. Would you take a long-
distance trip without plotting out your route, rest stops, etc.? If you want to
enjoy your trip and get to your final destination comfortably, probably not!Plotting out your vision is essential to make sure you are going in the right
direction. Take the time to visualize your future. Don't let limited beliefs and
old programming stand in the way of what is possible.Fear of the unknown
I remember as a small child, jumping into a lake was frightening. Not because
I had a fear of water or of drowning, but because I feared what was beneath the
dark pool of liquid. I couldn't see what was beyond the top layer of deep blue
water and it paralyzed me.Not knowing what we might encounter by trying a new approach in our
business is like jumping into the unknown. As frightening as it might feel, we
do not need to be ruled by our feelings.After finally taking the plunge (no pun intended) and jumping into the lake, I
realized that my fear was for nothing. The experience, although scary at first,
was invigorating and thrilling. Later, as I got older, I decided to really go into
the deep and became a certified scuba diver. I've never regretted conquering
the fear of the unknown.Toxic relationships
Wouldn't it be lovely if everyone we ever knew and know supported every
decision we made with fervor. Some of us are lucky to have incredible support
systems in our lives while others battle the war of toxic relationships.Can we change them? No. The only things we have 100% power over is how
we manage what is dished out to us. This means that while we can't expect
others to change (nothing wrong with praying for it), we can change how we
choose to accept the negative feedback we receive from them.For example, if you know that a friend, family member or colleague is
especially unsupportive of your business, don't discuss business with that
person. Instead, discuss your business with those in your sphere that you
know will provide you with the support and nurturing you need to lift you up.While we can't always divorce our family members, we can divorce ourselves
from their negativity.Fear of success
Upon watching a Discovery channel documentary about a young woman that
was in excess of 200 pounds overweight, I witnessed fear of success at its
worst.The cameras followed this woman for over one year. During that time she
dropped a significant amount of weight and with that loss came the loss of
dignity and control. The more weight she lost, the more pressure she felt to
stay thin and the more erratic her behavior became.She later admitted that with each pound lost, she felt pressure to not only keep
her weight off but also felt the pressure of living up to a new set of standards –
the standards she perceived were expected of a thinner woman. Her family and
friends offered her all the support they could give. Her perceptions were based
on her belief system and not the judgment of her sphere.Later, no longer being able to handle the pressure (that she put on herself), she
began to gain back her weight. At last report, she gained back all of the
weight she had worked so hard to loose and gained back even more.Fear of success is crippling. If you are someone who fears success ask yourself
this; would I rather fear success and all that comes with it, or would I rather
attract opportunities that are right for me? The choice IS yours.If you find yourself caught in the fear cycle, re-evaluate your beliefs and vision.
You and only you have the power to put a stop to the vicious self-sabotage
revolving door.Remember to think Big, live Big and play Big!2006 Copyright, Liz Pabon. All rights reserved.Liz Pabon is inspiring, motivating and empowering - but most importantly,
she's effective.
A speaker and author on the topic of personal branding, Liz delivers insights
and principles to entrepreneurs that are proven to maximize personal and
professional success.
Liz publishes a monthly eZine, Keys to Success, offering success
strategies that boost your business! Register for your free subscription at
http://www.lizpcommunications.com.To learn more about developing your unique personal brand, and to experience
a breakthrough in your business contact Liz at 916-788-2962 or email her at
liz@lizpcommunications.com.
Keyword : small business, success, business success, goal setting, networking, personal branding, brand
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